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Finding effective therapy is unique to each individual and this is exactly why ReM(i)'s therapy is supported by a tool kit. Some people try various modern techniques to improve their well-being. ReM(i) has encountered individuals who are frustrated with meditation because their minds wander quickly.
The mind is always active. ReM(i) teaches how to focus the energy and activation of the mind to where we want to use it. We have also met people who have practiced yoga for many years but still struggle with repetitive emotional patterns and personality traits.
Some people have tried individual therapy in a one-to-one environment that hasn't worked. ReM(i) Culture is literally a practice of clearing, healing and harnessing the energy of the mind for our (i)ndividual and communal purposes. With some practices like kundalini yoga, the person is initiating bilateral stimulation. If the kundalini practitioner for example, does not know how to fully clear the trauma, they are staying in the pain when they practice by opening unhealed channels through bilateral stimulation.
When individuals are putting in a lot of effort to make personal change, in an overwhelming environment, it is understandable that they may feel despondent and hopeless, triggering mental health challenges. This could be due to various factors such as socioeconomic and financial challenges, technology overload, and a lack of emotional regulation skills learned in childhood.
ReM(i) chooses not to throw one tool out for the other in a safe and non-judgmental space. ReM(i)'s practice is a fusion for emotional wellness, of what works for the (i)ndividual from all practices. The years of yoga, for example, will open the body to bioenergetics. Once the body knows how to open and stretch past muscle tension, (i)ndividuals can back off a bit, i.e. to stretch less and find the place of connection, and allow the vibrant energy of the body to help clear the emotions ie bioenergetics or energy therapies.
The only constant in life is change, which means our bodies and our minds are in perpetual rebalancing and reaction to stimuli around us to maintain mental wellness. This creates a need for both a macro deep practice and micro tools that are easily accessed throughout the day for emotional regulation and upkeep.
ReM(i) clients can clear big traumas with EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing). ReM(i) clients can recalibrate their personality to match an ideal vision of self. Finding your inner self and inner locus of control can be achieved through art, dance, journaling, meditation, documentaries, podcasts, or reading about admired mentors lives in the safe environment of your home.
Once you find this positive energy and best version of yourself, you can use tools to stay on track and avoid falling back into old behaviors and repetitive responses influenced by your early childhood environment rather than conscious choices as an adult. The Bucket and The Stone's cognitive-behavioral therapy has a short-chapter tools based approach that makes it feel more like a reference book than a lengthy read.
If you are mentally healthy and stuck in old patterns or feeling despondency without being chemically depressed, ReM(i) Culture is for you. ReM(i) trusts your intuition from past approaches to therapy. You can tell if you are seeing the same results. Are your relationships repeating the same way? Are you experiencing similar triggers in different work positions? If the patterns are the same but the environments and people are different, the work to be done is on yourself.
There is no fault in this repetition. ReM(i) will never blame, and will ask you to treat yourself with the same respect. What is being said is that with a small spark, you can change your life. The recognition of the past mishaps are actually awesome!
What if you said to yourself, "Hey self, this is incredible! I am not a victim of the world around me! The work to be done is my own! I have a certain amount of control, not over what happens to me, but how I react and live." This cognitive change for re-empowerment will literally change your life.
ReM(i) Culture uses the EMDR lens of taking the blame out of emotional and interpersonal relationships. Something happens or a happening occurs between people, and one (i)ndividual experiences it one way, and the other person has a different emotional reaction. In life, we do the best we can with the skills that we have in the present moment. What if you simply weren't introduced to the skills that will work for you yet?
ReM(i) Culture assists with identifying desired life transitions and aspirational personality outcomes. The main focus is on addressing blocking beliefs, which are negative thoughts that can be cleared and replaced with empowering beliefs. Affirmations alone are insufficient for creating change because not all statements are universally true. EMDR utilizes a list of negative and empowering beliefs beginning with "I" that can be incorporated into different therapies. It is crucial to work with a qualified therapist to address trauma and embrace these beliefs.
This somatic fusion work is evidenced based and researched at Columbia University School of Social Work, as well as dance therapies and movement therapies at Tisch School of the Arts at New York University. ReM(i) rediscovered that materialism does not equate with happiness and that subjective wellbeing is a mindset infused with meaning and time. Learn more about this work through our Non-Attachment Therapy.
Non-Attachment Therapy or NAT is practiced with the objects that you own. NAT can be a gift of love to yourself or someone else. NAT allows for self healing to be (i)n community and with the self. ReM(i)’s NAT Practitioners will guide you through two, one-hour sessions to support your self-healing and autonomy, which will affect future choice points and decision making.
ReM(i) began as an art practice of non-attachment with collaborative public social justice projects. The Bucket and The Stone brings to light the philosophy and the self-healing suggestions from this art practice. The ReM(i) collaborative public art, social justice projects, encouraged participants to investigate value, values and how they live in the world. Short documentation from the works are peppered throughout this article.
The founder of ReM(i) Culture: Elanit Linder
A Licensed Masters of Social Work graduate of Columbia University, EMDR Therapist, and member of the Aging Life Care Association, with a Bachelors of Fine Art from New York University, unapologetically sparkly, Elanit began her practice of healing, non-attachment and REalistic M(i)nimalism as a young person.
Transcendental meditation at 10, non-attachment at 13 and yoga at 18 with Sondra Loring … In her childhood home beloved items were crowding her life. So she took out a notebook and wrote them all down. As she noted each item she could see the length, breadth, color and history: how she had acquired it. She held their memory and allowed the physicality to go.
All I Want for Christmas is Nothing was launched in Times Square in 2002. Anita Durst and Chashama provided support for the event. Elanit Kayne Linder's Brooklyn apartment was displayed, i.e. artistically installed as an apartment, in a Times Square store front. The artist lived in the installation throughout the sale. Instead of price tags, each item had a history tag.
The history tag shared the object's biography and journey. Buyers would look at the object and its history, and then explain to the artist why they needed or wanted the object and the amount they would pay. The artwork explored the concept of value and considered socioeconomic status. The sale was based on the buyer's desire or necessity for the object, not on the highest bid. This life experiment led to stitches #7 and 8 in The Bucket and The Stone.
ReM(i) states that through our material objects we can learn a practice of emotional non-attachment. This theory does not mean that one should be unattached to the world. Healthy emotional attachments are indeed healthy and should be investigated both with oneself and possibly the help of a mental health provider if needed. A practice of non-attachment can bring an individual relief from the material world and a deeper sense of self.
When the term mental health provider or licensed counselor is used, ReM(i) means a licensed therapist who can be a social worker, i.e. an LMSW (licensed master of social work), LCSW (licensed clinical social worker), LMFT (licensed marriage and family therapist), psychologist or psychiatrist. When choosing a potential therapist, or a private practice, the type of treatment the mental health practitioner provides will have different lens and specialized training. This is because each (i)ndividual person will need a different therapy to unlock their best selves.
On Psychology Today, for example, there are many types of therapists, and the therapists list common types of therapy that they use, their clinical experience, and the populations that the are experts in working with. When you are choosing a mental health provider, you can ask for a quick video chat, there are a wide range of experts, this is an interview type introduction, where you also disclose your mental health issues and daily functioning. This is an important step because experienced therapist in the mental health field will figure out what works and doesn't quickly.
Clients who write that they do not have Bipolar Disorder on the intake when they do, may not receive the proper treatment approach, effective treatment and may not be an appropriate match for that practice. At the intake you are discussing a treatment plan, and learning if this Mental Health Clinic is the right match for your needs and work style.
Questions to ask might be:
How many therapy sessions is a typical length for you and how long do you usually work with people?
Do you take my insurance plan? What form of therapy do you practice most often?
Can I come to you with (this) mental illness or mental health condition?
Is it something you can support? Do you have online therapy?
Can I stand in the session and move around if I need to?
How much of the session do we spend talking?
If talking more than fifty percent of the time do you respond?
Have suggestions? And if so, what types of suggestions have you made in the past and what were the results of these suggestions?
Someone providing mental health services should be engaged and involved int he process. They would be looking at your resilience skills and operational system to find growth tools that will work for you. When we say suggestions, a suggestion might look like, "We have found a lot of tension in your upper back. What about doing these three physical exercises at home slowly with deep breath, and then journaling for 20 minutes without pauses." These types of suggestions are both evidenced based and energy medicine.
Another suggestion would exposure therapies which can be done with the therapist or by the client if they feel strong enough. There was a client who had "BIG T" or a incident type trauma, PTSD rather than the "small t" of complex trauma CPTSD (which refers to time frame, and repetition over time) at a legal location.
The client would avoid the location when driving and walking in the specific city. They returned to the therapist after they had walked into the building themselves, and knew at that time, that the trigger from the trauma was healed. Find out what tools the mental health provider you are planning to see uses, and then choose - along with the help of the provider - which tools will work for you.
Continuing with ReM(i)'s tool kit through the arts and creative expression. In this article will discuss the art of healing. Public artists who create work in public spaces disrupt the norm in order to engage in a new conversation. The ReM(i) value experiments and art installations continued in the public realm with a project titled Wear Me Out: we do it better longer, where 40 non-models of all body shapes and sizes, diverse backgrounds - identifications and cultures, walked a runway half a block from Bryant Park's fashion week at SHOW Nightclub, in one outfit.
The outfit or ALZ (from overalls) used the adjustable shoulders from overalls to fit multiple waistlines and body types. The fashion show highlighted the diversity and individuality of the models rather than the outfit. At the time, in 2004, in a more normative fashion show, very tall and very thin models would act as clothing hangers, erasing themselves as people, to highlight the fashion. At the time of this writing in 2023 thankfully the industry is moving towards a more diverse and inclusive industry. It is the power of art that can enhance the healing process on a personal and social level. Art is a healing environment with healing power!
ReM(i) turns agism on its head.
We began with evidence based service of our older adult population. ReM(i)’s research at Columbia University shows that autonomy and choice, not material wealth, are keys to a successful sparkly life.
ReM(i) trusts and appreciates the wealth of knowledge, experience and expertise that is afforded by aging.
The arts community on this project included Dominic Cloutier, a community connection at Noelle's Spa in Stamford for the hair design https://www.noelle.com/ brining value between in the connection between art and business, Noah Baen, whos' work can be found here https://www.crestoneartists.com/noah-baen.html - Erez Safar https://erezsafar.com/ and Joann Jimenez who now works in healing https://www.everythingsoulfulshop.com/ to name a few. As you will see from the images this public work of art had nearly 100 artists invested in its success.
TodayIDumpedTheBodies.blogspot.com further investigated non-attachment and the benefits of art in healing, public are as a creative arts intervention, value through publicly placed works of art in community spaces. What if the work of art could be found? What if the value was in the finding rather than the monetary exchange? This exploration is housed on the internet and can be viewed at any time. Elanit further investigated the value of her own art in a video titled The Value of Motherhood. Was the artwork itself or her daughters laughter of higher value as she ripped the artwork up after telling the story of each piece.
Prior to the above projects, the somatic facet of ReM(i) was developed at Tisch School of the Art at New York University.
Concurrent to receiving a Bachelor of Fine Arts, Elanit began to experience the benefits of yoga under Sondra Loring who at the time was a dancer in New York and is now an expert presenter of meditation in motion at Sadhana Yoga.
The form of movement at NYU was linked to the emotional work and mindful movement in the performance art classes. This emotional-physical work, communion of body, and flexibility benefits, led the ReM(i) innovator to investigate physical and emotional healing as one practice.
The body keeping the emotional score is now fundamental to most mental health practices, and practitioners will even say "the body keeps the score" which is also the title of Doctor Bessel Van Der Klok's book. ReM(i) is a practice for the people.
The Bucket and The Stone details the biographical journey of the investigation into Jewish Mysticism. The pioneer of ReM(i) intuitively knew that there was more to the Jewish tradition than what had been presented in childhood, and went on a decades long journey to learn more. ReM(i) has more about the Kabbalistic exploration, and Jewish history behind the work, at this website, on the iconography page.
The iconography as well as the biases towards Judaism were investigated in multiple settings including Kabbalistic texts. At an artist residency program at Vermont Studio Center, a creative process was engaged where stockings were stretched in plaster and a grave built for art-goers to experience being enveloped by the Holocaust and to sit gently in meditation with the souls. This community engagement added value to the other creative professionals at the at the residence program, and turned the studio into a performance space of sorts.
This work in Vermont laid the groundwork for Suited, a public art project produced at TIXE Art Gallery in mid-town Manhattan. Body casts were made by dipping tank tops into plaster and then cutting them off. These bodies were then sewn into a mass grave, with the stockings acting as bones and dirt covering the walls and floor. This work feels relevant in December of 2023 as we witness the aftermath of yet another mass murder of Jewish bodies in Israel.
Somatic Healing
There is somatic healing in art through movement includes physical sensations and body awareness. On a micro level there is evidence that physical writing with a pen connects to the emotions in a different way than typing.
In performance art and installation art, there is a more macro use of the entire body in the work of art. In Vermont the earth or dirt was meditatively collected by digging outside and wheelbarrowing it into the studio. The slow process of digging the cold earth, building the grave, and climbing in through the window to lay in the smell of soil and watch the sunlight move between the fine lines of the plaster holding small weblike tears from the stockings, engaged the community on a cellular level. Concurrently at The Brecht Forum hung a solo art collection titled Soft White. Soft White is the label from lightbulbs, and represented the lamps the Nazis made from Jewish skin, which can be viewed at the Holocaust Museum in Washington.
Judaism is a practice of self refinement, joy and celebrations of life which is relevant for all cultures. Most Jews shout "L'Chiam" which literally translates "to life." Further investigation of Jewish practices, which uplift the ReM(i) philosophy were investigated in a women's Yeshivah in Brooklyn, New York.
Twenty years later the administration has changed and the school is split. One of the influential Rabbis from this education Rabbi Yossi Paltiel.
It is only through knowing our own history, both in this life and intergenerationally, that we can really know ourselves. Stitch #22 from The Bucket and The Stone, encourages the reader to investigate their personal set of morals and rules, as well as history. ReM(i)'s engagement of Judaism is in a universal way that uplifts us all as humans engaged in refining ourselves and the world around us. With all the happenings in the world we still believe in peace and healing.
At this point in time the artistic social justice work merges with social work and social justice advocacy. The founder of ReM(i) came to social work through a passion for older adults. Contrary to most of the Masters Degree cohort at Columbia University School of Social Work, the impetus was joy, learning from the elders, and a passion for the life-cycle and what it means to be human. The journey to become a licensed social worker is one of self-reflection and self-refinement. No one individual can enter this work without being faced by themselves.
Not unlike the mentors and guides cited in the ReM(i) Culture and philosophy, the work is engaged by the practitioners themselves. Again, Viktor Frankl practiced Logotherapy, Francine Shapiro practiced EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing), the Kabbalists practiced, Dr. Joe Dispenza practiced and more. Good therapists need to heal their own trauma and depersonalize the work in order to be helpful. There are funny quotes around therapists themselves being traumatized. The truth is that many times it is an initial trauma that launches the person towards healing, and it is this expressed healing - in addition to a degree and mentorship in the biopsychosocial, that produces excellent mental health professionals.
Many of ReM(i) Practitioners are EMDR Hap Certified, certified yoga teachers, and members of the Aging Life Care Association. ReM(i) Culture is a practice of creativity and non-attachment which is intrinsic to many artists' practices.
Some artists begin the work through action and then allow the art itself to teach the artist. This type of practice is a special place of healing and light, a meditative practice of non-attachment, where the art and artwork meet in collaboration in the present tense.
These practices began both somatically at Tisch School of the Arts at New York University and visually through two-dimensional artworks. The ReM(i) small steps methodology or realistically minimalist actions, is referred to as “touching color” in the book The Bucket and The Stone. The self-help tools for emotional healing and the daily upkeep can be found on YouTube.
The iconography and Kabbalistic healing visuals, available on this site as art prints in the form of giclee's, fully decorate South Florida Cancer Care on North State Road 7 in Margate, Florida. This art healing project evidences that arts in medicine, and the future of healing includes spaces like cancer hospitals, and community spaces like doctors offices.
ReM(i)'s works of art are meditative and can help your healing progress in your home or your office space.
ReM(i) provides self-care tools for upkeep. Visit our YouTube Channel for more.
About Elanit Kayne Linder
Elanit Kayne Linder, LMSW is currently the Vice Chair of the Advisory Council at the Agency on Aging at the Agency on Aging of South Central Connecticut and the Director of Aging Adult Services at the Jewish Family Service of Greater New Haven.
Elanit earned a Master of Social Work - MSW, Advanced Generalist Practice and Programming from Columbia University and specializes in group therapies, geriatric care, programming and services, case management, social work, and 1-to-1 therapies encompassing motivational interviewing, EMDR, somatic, cognitive behavioral and exposure therapies, and community outreach and organizational growth.
Elanit Kayne Linder has achieved wide acclaim for her books on topics such as personal healing, EDMR and aging with grace. Her books have been top-sellers in the self-help genre and she has been referred to as a bestseller by numerous publications.
Her writing has inspired countless readers to take control of their lives and find joy in their everyday existence. Elanit’s passion for helping others is evident in each page of her work and it is easy to see why she has become so widely respected in the industry.
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